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Friday, August 21, 2009
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
Thursday, August 13, 2009
Hudson, where my mom grew up and we lived before moving to Chagrin Falls
I'm enjoying August here in the peace of the country. It's not so far removed from civilization here to make me feel isolated, but just right. There are festivals and things to do here in my town all the time. Most of the time I observe from my office, as working hard on art is most important to me. If I want to go out, I do. My back problem is still an issue, but I visited the Cleveland Clinic and my family doctor is working with me to get that taken care of. It's all a process and despite my limitations, I'm doing allright and feeling at peace.
Friends I haven't seen in awhile want to stop out, it's great. In Florida I stayed away from most people due to the high concentration of unsavory types that lived there. Here there are no budding criminals that I can see, it's all peace, elegance and friendship. I love it. No more slumming in Largo, Florida (looks like a nice place, but in my opinion, isn't) for me, ever again! Being home is wonderful.
Recently I got a pound of Frangelico flavored coffee beans, they are to die for. It's rare that I find coffee flavors that keep me hooked. The last time I truly was stuck on a flavor was twenty years ago when I couldn't live without Grand Marnier flavored coffee beans from a local cafe chain called Arabica. Nowadays, this coffee was found at the cafe downstairs and will keep me coming back to buy more. I've always been content with Starbucks Morning Blend for basic coffee, but am very picky about the flavored types. This is just right, not too acidic or bitter. And how convenient it is to walk downstairs and buy a bag.
The cats, too, love being here in Ohio. Gone is the intense Florida humidity and heat for these two very furry, long-haired cats. Both of them lounge around luxuriously, happy to have comfortable temperatures and many cozy places to sleep. Life is good for all three of us.
Last night the oldies musical diner downstairs threw a big bash and hot rod showcase, they do it every week, with great old music from the fifties, sixties and seventies. I work in my office and enjoy it from above, but do come down from time to time to get food at the restaurant. It's mainly bar food, but very good when I'm in the mood for it. Sometimes I contemplate buying a house somewhere out here but change my mind, due to the easy proximity to everything where I am now.
It's wierd how times and experiences change my thoughts and needs. I used to travel like crazy, and never feel happy to be home. I had to be in motion all the time. Now, I crave and love quiet and peace. I hated Florida with a passion, and stayed inside working most of the time there due to the heat. Now, I'm able to have my windows wide open, breathe fresh air and have healthy people as neighbors and friends (though I don't see them much due to my working most of the time). Ohio is a beautiful place. How I missed the rolling hills and beautiful countryside. Seeing years of Florida swamp, scrub, dry crunchy grass and endlesss Palmetto plants bored the heck out of me. You can't walk in the woods without worrying about rattlesnakes and other poisonous/dangerous stuff down there. Here, walking in the woods isn't hazardous to my knowledge. It's peaceful, without dangerous critters or heavy heat. It's heaven to me.
Sunday, August 02, 2009
How to be a Respectful Parent to Your Child (At Whatever Age)
by Carolyn McFann
Looks aren't everything. Care about inner beauty above all, that is what is most important.
Don't inforce YOUR values and beliefs as THE only way (no forcing people to think like you).
Don't interrupt, make fun of or belittle your offspring for having other views on things.
Be respectful of who your child is as a person. Let them be who they are, not what you want them to be.
Don't interrupt your son or daughter when they talk and disregard what they are saying.
Be calm and rational, not irrational, critical and aggressive.
Don't blow "hot and cold", be consistent.
Find time to praise, not just to criticize.
Don't smile when you're mad. Match your expression to your mood. Smiling when mad is creepy.
Have integrity, do what you say you are going to do.
Never make jokes at the expense of others.
Keep ego, insecurities in check. Don't make your child your therapist.
Have manners. You want your children to have them so practise what you preach.
Don't abandon your loved ones in times of emotional need. A little kindness goes a long way.
Look beyond yourself and what you want. What is in the best interest of your child matters.
Don't be so caught up in life that you can't stop to spend time with the ones you love.
Don't focus on your child's faults, focus on what his or her strengths are.
Don't badmouth your child to other people. Don't badmouth other people either. Don't teach your child to be disrespectful of others by example.
Don't scare and/or intimidate your child to get the upper hand. It is damaging psychologically. Just don't do it. Being a bully is wrong.
Who cares who is right or wrong. Don't argue it. Agree to disagree when you can't see eye to eye.
Never use your child as a scapegoat for your problems. It's a cowardly thing to do. Hire a therapist and work your issues out instead of beating up on the ones you love.